I have always wondered how many arguments there are in a day. If you go outside, check out the news, or go on social media, you’re sure to find something someone is arguing about. Every single day, I feel like there is something new that we are bickering about. It could be about politics, sex, religion, sports, or something else.
We might be inclined to ask ourselves, why are we always fighting? Is it our very nature to have conflict, or is it something that we do to ourselves? Is there a way to stop all this fighting?
So, why are we always fighting?
I thought long and hard about this and I think the reason is simple. The reason we fight and bicker, usually comes down to two things, those are selfishness and pride. These both fuel each other, the more selfish you become, the more prideful you become and vice versa.
If you notice that I didn’t put anger here, the reason is because anger is what I like to call a triggered emotion. For us to get angry, normally something would have to cause that anger, and the thing that causes that anger is either selfishness or pride, or even both.
My buddy James talked of this very thing. In James 3:16 it says, “For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice”. He also says this in James 4:1-2, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight.”
So, now that we understand why we fight, the next question comes to mind, is it our innate nature to be this way?
I would want to say that no we were not born this way, but if I did, that would be a lie. Ever since the moment when sin entered the world, we have all been condemned to sin. Paul states it this way, “Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned. ”
So, since sin entered the world all the attributes of sin have become indwelt into our very being. Those attributes are what Paul describes as the acts of the flesh in Galatians 5:19-21, “The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God”.
So, what Paul is telling us is that everyone of us has been born with sin in our lives. It doesn’t matter how nice you are, how good you think you are, how many good deeds that you have done. We cannot escape the fact that as we live in this world, we are surrounded by our sins.
This is very unfortunate for those people that believe that their good deeds will get them into heaven. As we can clearly see, since we are born of sin then nothing you do on your own will be able to change that, and as he states “those that live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
I know it sounds grim from here, but even though we are born in sin, there is a way to conquer that sin. Over 2,000 years ago God came down to earth in the flesh, so that He could show us the way to freedom and to life. During His time on earth, most people thought that He was crazy, and most of them refused to believe that He was and is God. However, after they saw Jesus physically die and stay dead in a tomb for three days, He miraculously rose from the dead and visited hundreds of people. This moment was and still is today, the most important moment of human history.
The reason that this moment was and is so important, is because it made the way for those sins of ours to be conquered. God made a way for us to break the chains of our sins, so that we may be free. Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. ”
So, with knowing all of this, how do we stop all of this fighting that is going on? I think that the answer is simple to understand, but hard to do. The answer is that we must change, otherwise sin will still rule over us, and we will always conflict with one another. The only way to change our nature, is to allow God, who designed us, to change it for us. Only the creator can fix the creation, but He gives us the freedom to choose.
So, I ask you, if you haven’t already, are you ready for a change? Are you sick and tired of fighting? Then don’t wait!
If you want to change then pray with me.
“My Father in Heaven, I come to You in the name of Jesus Christ. I have decided today to give my life completely over to You. I exchange my life today for Your life. I ask You to forgive me for all my wrong decisions, all my moral failures…all the sin in my life. I know that I can never be good enough, and it is only You that can change me.
I believe that Jesus died for me on the cross, to wash me clean and make me whole. I believe that He rose from the dead, and He is alive forevermore. I accept His sacrifice right now, and receive Him into my life. Thank you Father for saving me, and giving me a new life. I confess Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, and I will live for Him all the days of my life.
In Jesus’ name, Amen!”